Yet I had learnt many things about life.
Quite thankful for that too!
Anyway I'm going to summarise everything up nicely.
What have I learnt?
About friendship:
1) After breaking up, it's natural to fall into a very depressing state. People may find you becoming a boring person. Those who stood by you and never left, cherish them. They are really good friends.
2) Although some close friends may be harsh with their words, never scold or insult them. If you did, apologise as soon as possible. At a depressing state, it's difficult to handle the truth and critics.
Before a relationship:
1) Find out more about him/her before advancing the relationship. This will lead to lesser conflicts when together.
2) Be with someone who you doesn't need to impress. Be yourself.
3) Be with someone who isn't materialistic. It will really cost a bomb. And he/she will not appreciate you for who you are.
4) Don't accept someone for his/her kindness, beauty, care, money, love. Accept him/her only if you truly love him/her.
5) Love him/her with marriage in mind. Don't be half-hearted, there's no point.
6) Don't ever woo someone who had just broken up. You are in danger of being used as a substitute. Even if he/she says she loves you, don't believe it too soon.
In a relationship:
1) When there's a problem, it takes two party to solve it together.
2) Don't hold hatred or grudge against each other. Don't accumulate any anger. Surely will cause break up sooner or later.
3) Appreciate everything your partner does for you. It's really not easy doing something for someone, so if someone does things for you, it shows how much you meant to him/her.
4) Although love is unconditional, but it requires give and take too. At least don't take things for granted. Be thankful for everything they do for you.
5) If you feel that the relationship can't last, break up before the 2nd month anniversary. It's easier to move on.
6) Try your best to be committed in the relationship. It's okay to be romantic and mushy. And always be faithful and loyal to him/her.
7) You may love your family more than him/her, but don't be overboard on it.
8) Balance the time between relationship and friendship. Don't ever neglect friends. And don't make your partner feel less prioritised.
9) Don't try to hide your partner away from your friends and families. It will make them ponder if you really love them. Even if your parents doesn't allow you to have a relationship, they will accept it sooner or later, it your relationship is a healthy one.
After a relationship:
1) Wait for awhile before moving on to see if there's anything that can be done to patch back.
2) Throw away everything he/she gives you. It is psychologically poisonous.
3) Contact him/her as less as possible.
4) If you are the one feeling sad, it means the other party is at fault. Just move on, because he/she will regret this in the far future.
5) Try not to stay at home, try not to isolate. It's psychologically unhealthy.
6) Don't use someone else as a substitute after losing your partner. You will make him/her sad, which will have karmic effect back on you in the future.
7) See a psychiatrist/psychologist if you don't feel yourself, or don't feel happy after half a year. It's an unconscious block, or depression.
For me, I want...
1) Someone who doesn't mind eating hawker centre food everyday.
2) Someone who loves me as much as they love their family.
3) Someone who is not affected by their past relationships.
4) Someone who loves me as much as I love her.
5) Someone who doesn't take me for granted.
6) Someone who accepts my flaws.
7) Someone who will take care of me when I'm sick, like how I take care of her.
8) Someone who doesn't get sick meeting each other everyday, spending our daily lives together.
9) Someone who can be as dearly as a wife, even before marriage.
10) Someone who forgives me for my mistakes, because I'm not perfect.
Gonna sleep now!
Thanks for reading this random post!
Shall fuck off now. Bye!
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